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Mental illness is invisible and doesn’t discriminate. But some people do.

By Melissa Ng

CEO of Bravely

Published

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12 Feb 2020

12 Feb 2020

When I was 10, I hid in my room looking up symptoms of depression.

The events leading up to that are too lengthy to share. But my teachers knew something was amiss. My friends knew something wasn’t right. Somewhere deep down, I had known for a long time I wasn’t okay. I hadn’t been okay for a long time.

That depression symptoms printout stayed crumpled and folded amongst my notebooks for a while before they were found. The discovery went down about as poorly as you could imagine.

“You’re 10! What do you know about depression? How dare you think you’re suffering from real problems. I’m the one suffering from real depression.”

I didn’t bother fishing the shredded remains of the printout from out of the rubbish bin.


Don’t you think I’m trying to “get over it”?

“He jests at scars that never felt a wound” — Shakespeare, Romeo & Juliet

Looking back, that was the first time I felt the sharp slap of the shame and stigma surrounding mental illnesses.

Perhaps society overlooks mental illnesses because it’s easy to ignore the invisible. Is it really suffering if you can’t see the wounds? Is the pain really that bad if you see no blood?

In all that time battling my own mind since then, I’ve heard it all:

“But you’ve got so much going for you! You can’t be depressed.”

“Why don’t you just, you know, not do it (commit suicide)?”

“I don’t think you’re depressed. I don’t think depression even exists.”

“Mind over matter, just get over it.”

Thankfully I’ve had more encouragement than not. I count myself lucky to have good friends in my corner, people who didn’t need to know what I was struggling with to understand I needed their help and patience.

It would take almost 20 years, 5 therapists, 4 misdiagnoses, a year of wrong medication, one hospital stay and countless hours of research before I finally figured out what was wrong with me. And every single day has been an ugly fight — it was just one you couldn’t quite see.


Mental illness doesn’t give a crap who you are

“I’m my own biggest enemy

Yeah, all my empathy’s a disaster

Feeling something like a scaly thing

Wrapped too tightly ‘round my own master”

— Halsey, I hate everybody

Even the rich and famous aren’t immune. The likes of Dwayne Johnson, Billie Eilish, Lady Gaga, Stephen Fry, and Beyonce have started to open up about their mental health struggles.

Mental illness really doesn’t discriminate.


What doesn’t kill you makes you… Stronger?

This resilience warcry (or occasional song lyric) is one we all know (it actually originated from Nietzsche). But most of the time, what doesn’t kill you really just chips away at your sanity.

In a culture of mental illness stigma and social media boasting, this line turns into an instruction manual for: ‘shove it down and smile for the grams’.

We can’t turn our backs on mental health struggles, then turn around shocked when something happens. If we truly want to make a difference, we need to make help, resources and support available to everyone.

You can help by simply listening without judgement. Empathy can help break through the heavy brick wall that is stigma. Talking about your struggles with no feelings of shame is one of the most validating and liberating human experiences a person can have.

If someone you know is having a hard time — no matter who they are or what their lives look like from the outside — tell them it’s okay to talk about not being okay (and mean it).

And if you’re the one having a hard time, I’m telling you with all my heart: it’s okay to not be okay. Come, let’s talk about it, I’m ready to listen.

If you want to try out our app, built for people like you by those who know what its like to struggle with their mental health you can download it here.

Feeling anxious or stressed?
Try this super easy self check to assess what you need.

When I was 10, I hid in my room looking up symptoms of depression.

The events leading up to that are too lengthy to share. But my teachers knew something was amiss. My friends knew something wasn’t right. Somewhere deep down, I had known for a long time I wasn’t okay. I hadn’t been okay for a long time.

That depression symptoms printout stayed crumpled and folded amongst my notebooks for a while before they were found. The discovery went down about as poorly as you could imagine.

“You’re 10! What do you know about depression? How dare you think you’re suffering from real problems. I’m the one suffering from real depression.”

I didn’t bother fishing the shredded remains of the printout from out of the rubbish bin.


Don’t you think I’m trying to “get over it”?

“He jests at scars that never felt a wound” — Shakespeare, Romeo & Juliet

Looking back, that was the first time I felt the sharp slap of the shame and stigma surrounding mental illnesses.

Perhaps society overlooks mental illnesses because it’s easy to ignore the invisible. Is it really suffering if you can’t see the wounds? Is the pain really that bad if you see no blood?

In all that time battling my own mind since then, I’ve heard it all:

“But you’ve got so much going for you! You can’t be depressed.”

“Why don’t you just, you know, not do it (commit suicide)?”

“I don’t think you’re depressed. I don’t think depression even exists.”

“Mind over matter, just get over it.”

Thankfully I’ve had more encouragement than not. I count myself lucky to have good friends in my corner, people who didn’t need to know what I was struggling with to understand I needed their help and patience.

It would take almost 20 years, 5 therapists, 4 misdiagnoses, a year of wrong medication, one hospital stay and countless hours of research before I finally figured out what was wrong with me. And every single day has been an ugly fight — it was just one you couldn’t quite see.


Mental illness doesn’t give a crap who you are

“I’m my own biggest enemy

Yeah, all my empathy’s a disaster

Feeling something like a scaly thing

Wrapped too tightly ‘round my own master”

— Halsey, I hate everybody

Even the rich and famous aren’t immune. The likes of Dwayne Johnson, Billie Eilish, Lady Gaga, Stephen Fry, and Beyonce have started to open up about their mental health struggles.

Mental illness really doesn’t discriminate.


What doesn’t kill you makes you… Stronger?

This resilience warcry (or occasional song lyric) is one we all know (it actually originated from Nietzsche). But most of the time, what doesn’t kill you really just chips away at your sanity.

In a culture of mental illness stigma and social media boasting, this line turns into an instruction manual for: ‘shove it down and smile for the grams’.

We can’t turn our backs on mental health struggles, then turn around shocked when something happens. If we truly want to make a difference, we need to make help, resources and support available to everyone.

You can help by simply listening without judgement. Empathy can help break through the heavy brick wall that is stigma. Talking about your struggles with no feelings of shame is one of the most validating and liberating human experiences a person can have.

If someone you know is having a hard time — no matter who they are or what their lives look like from the outside — tell them it’s okay to talk about not being okay (and mean it).

And if you’re the one having a hard time, I’m telling you with all my heart: it’s okay to not be okay. Come, let’s talk about it, I’m ready to listen.

If you want to try out our app, built for people like you by those who know what its like to struggle with their mental health you can download it here.

Feeling anxious or stressed?
Try this super easy self check to assess what you need.

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Embrace the future of therapy with Bravely Connect. Say goodbye to the hassle of admin, and hello to better client engagement and therapeutic alliance.

With seamless management of scheduling, records, and outcomes, you're ready to elevate your practice. Discover the Bravely Connect difference and start a new era of streamlined practice management!

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